意見不同時，你還能侃侃而談嗎？

It's not just your English. It's your social skill.

你常這樣催眠自己嗎？

• 「她喜歡狗，我就不喜歡狗也對狗沒有特殊意見，沒什麼好聊，算了！」

• 「曲棍球？我沒打過也沒有看過哎，他一定覺得我很笨竟然不知道！」

• 「如果我問問題他會不會覺得我很笨？」

• 「看起來大家對這話題都侃侃而談，我沒意見就隱退吧⋯⋯」

• 「她是泰勒絲粉絲而我不是，她會不會不喜歡我？」

成人之間對話如果一直擔心對方會被冒犯或不喜歡你，可能是心魔作祟了！大家都是獨立個體，意見、經驗不同不是常態嗎？圓潤的溝通技巧是尊重別人和自己的意見，站住腳，別牆頭草。You don’t always have to explicitly¹ express agreement or disagreement.

繼續往下閱讀參考自己台階下的例句！

🚨工商時間：一月團班報名中🚨

星期三（進階會話）、四（電影）、五（電影）還有位置

當雙方想法不同時，心裡嘗試這幾句話：

• Wow, she is so different from me.

• I wonder why he said that. Perhaps I can ask.

• What made him say that? Let me ask.

• I’m glad to discover a different side of the story².

• I don’t have to change my mind, neither does he.

• When he disagrees with me, it doesn’t mean he hates me.

• Disagreement is not a personal attack³.

• I am allowed to have my opinions, so does he.

• We are still friends despite⁴ our differences.

• I can laugh about our differences.

尊重自己的情緒，消化後平靜表達：

“I have never had a dog before. What is it like to⁵ have a dog?”

Ice hockey isn’t a popular sport in Taiwan because it’s not that cold. How did you get into it⁶?

I’m probably asking a silly question because I know nothing about it so, what is “football” and what is “soccer”? （坦白表達懵懂無知是尊重，裝懂或打發反而容易被看穿）

So everyone here has tried skiing before? What would you recommend a beginner to do? Maybe I can give it a try one day. （清楚表達立場和問題）

Hold on… you all are going 90 miles per hour⁷! Someone please tell me why Taylor Swift is so popular. I have been living under a rock⁸.

希望這些句子能漸漸讓你學習搭建溝通的橋樑，實體練習最有效，沒有機會的話可以自己創造，哪怕是邊洗澡邊腦袋演練八點檔！有練就是有分 ✌🏼

1. explicitly (adv) 明確地、直率地

2. a side of a story 故事、事情的一方面

3. personal attack 人身攻擊

4. despite 儘管

5. what is it like to …? 做這件事是什麼感覺？什麼樣子？

6. get into something 開始某興趣、進入狀況

7. go 90 miles per hour 每小時九十哩，一種誇飾法指對話來往太快跟不上

8. live under a rock 住在石頭下，指與世隔絕、沒跟上潮流（此文章例句有自嘲意味）